Confusing Love With Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control

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Years ago, I found myself in a situation where I had developed an unhealthy attachment towards another. Instead, it is a caustic condition whereby a person has intrusive thoughts about another and is unable to focus on much else except that individual. Although the characters of the book come from diverse backgrounds and behave in different ways, they are bound by the same problem.

I say I love her, but she is a complete wreck in regards to money management, and I´m drowning in debt. Eros is characterized by passion and desire to establish a strong physical and emotional connection with a partner. In the beginning of a relationship, its not uncommon to experience fireworks [laughs] for the first couple of years. During this stage, some individuals start to romanticize the personality of the object of their affection or focus solely on physical traits.And If you have had a man cheat on you in the past, the issue of trust becomes understandably compounded. I recently sat down with this super sexy doctor and consultant to the stars in an interview before he left California for a flight back to Chicago. the very thing the obsessed person does not want to happen, meaning a break up, happens because they cause it. This stage is characterized by extreme levels of distrust from one partner that is based on a fear of the other partner ending the relationship.

It was surprising to learn that there are many types of obsessive behavior and that they all can be described in a number of stages. Relationally dependent individuals try to manipulate their partners through emotional abuse, money or other points of control.According to this idea, there are six types of love, and each type has apparent characteristics and traits.

What should I do to help those who suffers from confusion of these two to understand whether they're in love or they're obsessed towards that someone? I appreciate how he went into more detail about the impact obsession can have on the dynamics of the relationship. While in the book Chris’s actions may look irrational to some people, there is a reason for his actions. This is particularly true if a low degree of trust exists and a high degree of jealousy with an emphasis on physical attraction.

Why do so many women and men obsessively attach themselves to destructive relationships relationships that they cannot walk away from? Many of those people start manipulating their partners unintentionally, and over time the urge to control can only grow stronger without them realizing it.

And so this is why I have always said that confusing love with obsession is an equal opportunity destroyer and is gender neutral. It is also important to see, that many people, who are afflicted by relation dependency, are not aware of possible consequences of their actions.

As a Chicago therapist, his firm Guy Counseling provides consulting and training services to people and organizations on health and wellness, including some Hollywood celebrities. Some scientists distinguish relationships by comparing them to multiple styles of loving, a theory presented by John Alan Lee (Miller, 2014).